Unschooling can look like the lazy way out.
Compared to unschooling, schools require dozens of teachers and faculty, all with their own specializations, to make sure the school runs properly. The same level of complexity is impossible to replicate at home. There’s simply too much to do for one family to be responsible of.
The truth is the complexity is unnecessary, and even harmful.
Schools Create Educational Dependency
Schools accept responsibility for their students in several ways:
- Organization. Schools tell students what to learn and when to learn it.
- Control. Through an endless list of rules and regulations, schools limit activity to what is necessary for the school to run efficiently.
- Assessment. Students are graded, evaluated, judged, rewarded and punished according to their performance. It’s up to the school to tell others whether or not the student is learning.
Most importantly, schools take responsibility for the student’s learning. Schools base themselves around that responsibility. How will they control what the student learns? How will they know when the student is learning? How can they prove the student’s progress?
The tricky thing is that whether or not schools have good intentions, they can’t tell you what a student knows or what a student has learned. Only the student can. The only thing schools can be certain of is what the student has known at a given point in time, and what the student has been exposed to while in school. Schools cannot guarantee a student’s knowledge. No one can.
However, that lack of guarantee itself isn’t the problem..
By accepting responsibility for the student’s education, schools effectively take that responsibility away from the student and his or her family. Instead of empowering students, schools tell them they can’t be trusted with their own minds and their own knowledge.
Students are dependent on schools for their education.
Unschooling Empowers Learners
Unschooling gives responsibility to the learners. Unschooled children are told they can learn what they want to, when they want to. That responsibility creates a crucial contrast to schools. Instead of passively receiving information, unschoolers know what they learn and when they learn it is their own responsibility. They aren’t afraid to ask questions. They openly seek knowledge.
Knowing you’re in charge of your own education affects your learning in a number of ways:
- You’ll be more curious and excited about your learning. It’s what YOU want to learn, so why wouldn’t you be?
- You’ll be more in-depth. You might focus on a shorter list of subjects than what you’d be exposed to in school, but your learning won’t be focused on answering a handful of questions. You’ll learn for the sake of wanting to.
- You’ll be more relaxed. You won’t be focused on meeting curriculum standards, competing with other students, and making sure you meet expectations. Learning will be natural.
- You’ll realize learning never stops. Being aware of your own learning will make you realize that it happens all the time, at any given moment.
- You’ll enjoy learning. You can’t dread learning if you’re learning what you want to. Learning will be an enjoyable experience, like it should be.
Learning happens naturally, from the day we’re born. Creating an environment capable of stimulating learners both intellectually and creatively is easy, even on low budgets. Humans are naturally curious. All we need to learn is the ability to find answers to our questions.
Giving children responsibility for their learning lets them trust themselves. Their own interests and judgment are listened to. Having the power to control their own educations empowers unschoolers in a positive way. That same responsibility can help adults, too.
Instead of creating dependent students, unschooling empowers learners. Intuitive and natural learning isn’t lazy. It’s just the way it should be.
As an unschooler, I’m responsible for my own education. It’s up to me to know when I’m learning, what I want to learn, and how I’m going to learn it. I’m asking questions, not just answering them.
The only one that can control what you learn and when you learn it, is you. How has being in charge of your own education affected your learning?

April 10, 2010 at 3:44 am
I couldn’t agree with you more! Great post.
April 14, 2010 at 5:27 pm
Thanks! I’m glad you enjoyed it.
April 10, 2010 at 3:44 am
Good stuff Anna. I reposted this on facebook. :-)
April 14, 2010 at 5:27 pm
Thank you! I appreciate you sending the link forward. :D
April 16, 2010 at 7:24 pm
Great post! I also Facebooked and linked on my site. This is a common surface misconception that stems from the belief that children will sit around and pick their bellybutton link if not ‘fed’ or ‘forced’ information. Nothing could be further from the truth!
April 16, 2010 at 7:37 pm
The sad part is that the people advocating public schooling and force fed education are the victims of it themselves. They can’t possibly understand our point of view without experiencing it first. People just need to be more aware of just how much we learn every day, whether or not we try to.
Thanks for commenting and linking! Both are well appreciated.
October 18, 2010 at 11:00 pm
brava, anna! THIS is why we unschool – because there’s nothing like unstifled natural curiousity. our 8yo is SO into tornadoes lately. it’s been storm chasers, movies, NOAH, and more the last few months. love it!
October 29, 2010 at 4:46 am
Nice post. It’s so frustrating that more people can’t understand this. Do adults forget how it was to be in school?